By Corrie Kessler
The crosses honour the poppies, not the other way around.
Sometimes I forget that beauty and breath came before sacrificial
crosses and death.
The facts of dying and living have overwhelmed me before. Especially
when personal experiences and news articles seem to whittle down
tributes to life.
But this November 11, 2007 I remembered that the scale of life is
meant to be balanced.
I watched the memorial service on Parliament Hill this Remembrance
Day’s morning.
The act of commemorating life that is lost is important. Holding
ceremonies to show thankfulness for lives that have been sacrificed
“so that other’s might live” is honourable. But personally taking that
gift of life and freedom and running with it, choosing to be fully
ALIVE in all areas of life, that is a whole different level of
gratefulness.
I experienced different emotions during that televised memorial
service. I felt pride that my nation would be thoughtful enough to
remember with wreaths all the different ethnicities that fought as
well as the current men and women who are serving in the military and
public service jobs. I was grateful to people that give their lives to
help others in our day to day society despite being under appreciated
or supported. I was frustrated at the sheer numbers of wasted life
involved in war. Sometimes it seems like there is a cycle where people
sacrifice while others live unaware or die needlessly so that others
live peacefully.
Just as I was wondering “Is there another solution?”, a soldier who’d
had his legs blown off in the Afganistan peace keeping mission was
interviewed. He was smiling as he mentioned his grief over loosing his
fellow soldiers over the last two years and his willingness to use a
wheel chair because he understands “that’s part of the deal”.
Something about the incongruity of his smile and his situation
triggered an answer to my question: Poppies grew in Flanders Fields in
defiance of the bombed out earth of no-man’s land. Graves and crosses
were planted to honour that wild red “clinging to life”. Poppies don’t
represent soldiers deaths, they represent their bids for life.
Life comes from somewhere else than death and is more vibrant and
precious in contrast to it. What isn’t as obvious is that people can
make choices about how they relate to death. It is as equally possible
to choose not to die ’till your done livin’ as it is to be dying the
whole time you are alive. There is a marked contrast in the
life-approach of people who have learned the difference.
Physically, our bodies just can’t stay “alive” forever. I get that.
But in the meantime, we can make decisions to be fully ALIVE every
time we wake up in them. We can look at our life styles and see if our
habits bring the symptoms of life or death to ourselves and others. We
can choose to find out exactly who we were created to be and try to
reach that full potential by acting like the Life Giver. We can
celebrate being alive and being blessed by building strong
relationships, celebrating family and successes and applauding
people’s sheer effort - whether they “win” or “lose” their personal
battles.
Sometimes our celebrations will take the form of attitudes or actions
of sacrifice. That might mean choosing careers that get into all kinds
of muck beside people so that they can get out. That might mean
practicing ethical business models that make money so that justice can
be funded elsewhere. That might mean swallowing our pride and being
willing to be wrong for the sake of a relationship. Choosing to give
everything so that death can not win, whether during the day to day or
as the ultimate sacrifice, is the polar opposite of wasting life. Jesus
did that.
I don’t know if there is another way to resolve issues of death and
war other than to individually allow the fullness of life in our own
personal circumstances to out-weigh the cost of death. Sacrificing
isn’t pretty and it hurts a lot: Just like the process of birth.
The experience of sacrificing can feel unnecessary or
under appreciated, but it’s easier to handle when there is camaraderie
in it. When we purposefully honour the gift of life (and by extension
it’s ultimate giver) we give meaning to the excruciating and
inexplicable. We push back. We balance out the scales in the same way
that handfuls of poppies outweigh war and death. Every time.
-Corrie Kessler